For months, the internet was boiling with rumo͏u͏rs about Sinach’s husband, Joseph Egbu. Screenshots, messages, whispers, half-truths, and outright lies flooded social media. Every day, new blogs carried fresh angles, and thousands of people tagged her, waiting for a reaction. But she kept quiet. She didn’t engage anybody. She didn’t defend herself. She didn’t clear the air. She didn’t attack the accusations. She just posted scriptures—simple Bible verses that people read but still couldn’t decode.
Her silence made people talk even more. Some called it strength. Some called it weakness. Some mocked her. Some prayed for her. But in her late-night video, when she finally spoke—only for a few minutes—she said the words that froze everyone who listened:
“I have been silént not because I am weàk, but because I was trying to hear God in the noise.”
Those who understood, understood. She wasn’t hiding. She wasn’t pretending. She wasn’t covering anything up. She was listening—listening for clarity, listening for direction, listening for peace.
But the moment that shook everyone was when she said softly:
“Sometimes, prayer is walking away.”
That statement carried weight. It carried pain. It carried courage. It carried truth. It carried years of unspoken battles.
And it opened a conversation many have been afraid to have.
SOMETIMES, PRAYER IS WALKING AWAY — A BIBLICAL REALITY
People think prayer is always kneeling down and crying. They think prayer is always endurance. They think prayer is always: “Stay there and keep suffering.” But the Bible shows us repeatedly that walking away can be a divine instruction.
- Abraham walked away from Lot — and God spoke AFTER he walked away.
Genesis 13:14 says:
“After Lot had separated from him, the LORD said to Abram…”
It was after the separation—not before—that clarity came.
Sometimes you don’t hear God clearly until you walk away from what is draining you.
- Joseph walked away from Potiphar’s wife — and that was his escape.
Genesis 39:12 says:
“…and he left his garment in her hand, and fled, and got him out.”
He didn’t pray in that moment. He didn’t negotiate. He didn’t quote scripture.
He walked away—and that walk was his deliverance.
- Jesus told His disciples to flee persecution.
In Matthew 10:23, Jesus said:
“When they persecute you in one city, flee to another…”
Sometimes fleeing is obedience.
Sometimes leaving is spiritual wisdom.
Sometimes survival is God’s will.
- Paul escaped through a window.
Acts 9:25 says:
“The disciples took him by night and let him down through the wall in a basket.”
Even Paul—the great apostle—walked away from danger rather than face unnecessary destruction.
- God called Israel OUT of Egypt, not to endure Egypt.
Exodus 3:7–8
“I have seen the misery… I have come down to rescue them… and bring them out.”
If staying was holy, God would have said, “Endure your suffering.”
But God said, “Come out.”
So yes, sometimes prayer is not “stay.”
Sometimes prayer is not “hold on.”
Sometimes prayer is not “keep fighting.”
Sometimes, prayer is:
“My daughter, walk away before this thing kills the beauty inside you.”
MARRIAGE IS NOT, AND WILL NEVER BE, A DO-OR-DIE AFFAIR
Sinach’s statement exposed a painful truth: many people are bleeding silently in marriages they call “God’s will,” yet nothing in their experience reflects God’s nature.
In the last 48 hours after I made a post about my own marital situation, I received an overwhelming number of messages and calls. Not from strangers alone—men, women, Christians, non-Christians, even pastors.
People poured out their hearts.
Stories of abuse.
Stories of neglect.
Stories of emotional damage.
Stories of regret.
Stories of fear.
Stories of emptiness.
Some cried while speaking.
Some whispered so their spouse wouldn’t overhear.
Some said they have been waiting for someone bold enough to speak up so they too could breathe.
Those calls opened my eyes even more:
Many people are not happy in their marriages.
Many are not fulfilled.
Many have lost themselves.
Many are only enduring, not enjoying.
Many are dying slowly inside.
If marriage is truly 100% “God-made,” then why is the product destroying the people God created?
This is why I say—and I will say it again:
Marriage, as we know it today, is technically not of God.
Not because companionship is bad.
Not because love is bad.
Not because commitment is bad.
But because the system of marriage—especially the religious version we practice—is man-made, fear-driven, culture-based, ego-protected, and emotionally suffocating.
WHO CALLED EVE A WIFE — ADAM OR GOD?
Let us go back to the text.
It was Adam who said:
“This is now bone of my bones… she shall be called Woman…” (Genesis 2:23)
It was Adam who said:
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother…” (Genesis 2:24)
Think carefully.
Adam had no father.
Adam had no mother.
Adam had no in-laws.
Adam had no wedding tradition.
So where did “father and mother” suddenly come from?
This is why many Bible scholars concluded that it was Moses writing, not Adam speaking. Moses inserted that line to establish a cultural principle for the Israelites.
If God Himself had declared marriage as an eternal, unbreakable, universal structure, Jesus would not have said:
“In the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage…”
– Matthew 22:30
Meaning:
Marriage is not an eternal ordinance.
Marriage does not exist in heaven.
Marriage is earthly, not heavenly.
And Jesus taught us to pray:
“Thy will be done on earth, as it is in heaven.”
If there is no marriage in heaven, then why is marriage treated like a life-and-death covenant on earth?
This does not mean marriage is evil.
But it means marriage is not what we have been told it is.
Marriage is not God’s ultimate plan for human beings.
God’s ultimate plan is relationship with Him, not relationship with a spouse.
THE DANGER OF RELIGIOUS MARRIAGE
The marriages that suffer the most are usually the ones built on religion, not on:
– friendship
– compatibility
– vision alignment
– emotional intelligence
– communication
– healing
– growth
– truth
Most religious marriages last only because:
– people are ashamed to leave
– they fear judgment
– they fear loneliness
– they fear gossip
– they fear being seen as failures
– they fear breaking a “religious rule”
But fear should never be the foundation of a covenant.
Many people stay married and lose their minds.
Many stay married and lose their purpose.
Many stay married and lose their peace.
Many stay married and lose their identity.
Many stay married and lose God.
So again:
Marriage is not a do-or-die affair.
God never told anyone to die in silence.
The Bible says:
“Wisdom is profitable to direct.” – Ecclesiastes 10:10
Sometimes wisdom says:
“This place is destroying you.”
“This relationship is draining your soul.”
“This environment is killing your spirit.”
“Get up. Leave. Heal.”
SINACH’S WORDS — A MESSAGE TO THIS GENERATION
“Sometimes, prayer is walking away.”
Those words are not about divorce.
They are not about bitterness.
They are not about attacking anyone.
They are about self-preservation.
They are about hearing God clearly.
They are about choosing life over suffering.
They are about saving your purpose.
They are about protecting your peace.
Sinach did not speak as a celebrity.
She spoke as a woman who has carried weight for a long time.
She spoke as someone who has cried in secret.
She spoke as someone who realized that losing yourself is the greatest tragedy of all.
“You can lose everything and still find peace if you don’t lose yourself.”
Those words should be written in gold.
A FINAL WORD TO EVERY MAN AND WOMAN READING THIS
If your marriage is blessing you, congratulations.
Protect it. Nurture it. Grow it.
But if your marriage is suffocating you, do not let religion bury you alive.
Do not let society use shame to imprison you.
Do not let culture push you into silence.
Do not let fear make you stay where God is no longer present.
Remember:
God’s will is your peace.
God’s will is your healing.
God’s will is your growth.
God’s will is your sanity.
And if walking away is what brings those things back,
then yes—
Sometimes, prayer is walking away.
Sam Adeoye
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